Dear Diary: Lil Wayne “The End of a Long Journey”

Lil Wayne has done it again, and it’s said to be his last letter for his fans. He actually posted it 3 days ago, prior to his release yesterday morning. It was very thoughtful and nice of him to keep us all posted and show us that he appreciates us as his fans.

Check out what he wrote after the jump….

Hello world! My world! Our world!

As I greet you all in my last days on this island, I must reflect. I think back to when I first arrived and I had no clue of what I’d be experiencing. I was never scared, worried, nor bothered by the situation. For that, I thank God, my family, and you, my amazing fans. I prayed for you all every night, as I’m aware that I was in your prayers as well. The very first day that I received mail, it was about 300 pieces or more! I smiled like a child of Christmas. But when I began to read them, my heart smiled. I laughed with some of you, reasoned with some of you, and even cried with some of you. I responded to as many of you that time would allow. I plan to keep reading and responding after my release. I thank you all for being so very supportive, as I never imagined how much impact my words and life can have. With this knowledge, I vow to continue to be me! For you have assured time that I don’t have to change for no one but God. I will be the same Martian I was when I left, just better. You fans are more than amazing, and I will for to the end of the world for your love. This isn’t the last of weezythanxyou.com I will continue to thank you when I’m home.

I simple LOVE you all.

P.S. Thanx for supporting my YM team the way you do!!

Now I like to thank my wonderful family and friends for never letting me down. Your love and support is worth the world. I am grateful for you all and I couldn’t have done it without your love. Also, I thank everyone who came to visit me. That shit meant a lot, straight up! I would do the same, if not more for you.

Now I must dedicated something to the woman in the picture…

…sitting on this bed with my back against one of the four walls I’ve been confined to, all I can think of is you. Staring at you staring at me, from the picture of you that I see. I try so hard to make the picture smile. You look so serious. Seriously beautiful. You, me, we are one. Then I look further to the right and there’s a picture of “the bed by the water”… where I dream to be with the woman in the picture that still won’t smile. I sometimes talk to the picture, but it never responds. Although, I’ve been told that a picture speaks a thousands words, I only wish that this picture would speak of four… “I love you too.” That would be the perfect response to what I frequently say to it. You see, the picture of “the bed by the water” has sand in it, and the woman in the other picture has sand in her hair… put them together, and she’s there. And when I dream, I’m there with her. Shhh… quietly these four walls become that place in the picture. And the woman in the picture begins to whisper… “I love you too”… she responds!

And now she smiles. Imagination is perfect.

Dedicated to the woman in the picture.

Gone!

Source: weezythanxyou.com

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Dear Diary: Special Thoughts on Bruno Mars

Bruno Mars is not the first artist to be caught with cocaine – or “booger sugar” as TMZ refers to it – and he damn sure won’t be the last. Buddy may not even be the last artist to get caught with it this year if Paris Hilton or Lindsay Lohan have any say. I just hope Bruno, and anybody else out there doing nose candy, somehow manage to keep their lives in tact to the point they’re not on E! True Hollywood Stories in five years. If that show still even comes on.

Regardless, this guy has been one of the freshest additions in the music industry in a good while and a personal favorite since I was put on towards the beginning of this year. I’ve yet to really speak on the song, but “Just The Way You Are” has one of those timeless feels to it. It’s a record not exclusive to any generation and one any age bracket can find the silver lining in. Truth is, pop records tend to have a long shelf life. It will probably still end up getting played at proms next spring and if you can convince your grandparents to give it a listen they may even crack a smile in approval.

Nah, I’m not calling it a “classic” at the moment, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s played at weddings and in movies for years to come. Labeling the record a Valentine’s Day anthem isn’t too far fetched either. Mars just makes great crossover music. His album ‘Doo-Wops & Hooligans’ is set to be released on October 5 and I fully expect it to be one of the years’ best come December 31, 2010. And if it is, those coke charges…well, what coke charges?

Check out the video below from his song, “Just The Way You Are”….

Source: KC

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Dear Diary: The-Dream’s Open Letter

RAPPER The-Dream tried to commit suicide following his split from Christina Milian.

The star — who married the AM to PM beauty in September 2009 and has five-month-old daughter Violet with her — has revealed the turmoil he suffered in the months since his relationship with the beautiful pop star ended earlier this year.

“I’ve cried about this for months, after interviews, after prayer and I’ve tried to take my own life at a point because of the failure that was looming,” he said.

“This is not to justify anything, it’s true emotion. It’s a real thing that involves real people.”

Earlier this month, the producer-and-rapper — real name Terius Nash — admitted his relationship with Christina ended several months ago, but they only announced their separation after he was spotted on the beach with his assistant Melissa Santiago.

Despite the pictures, Terius is adamant nobody else was involved in their split.

“I would love to tell the truth as to why my relationship wasn’t successful, but today that is between me and Christina. It’s easy to say that it’s because of another woman or a new relationship but truthfully, it’s not,” he said.

“I take full responsibility for misleading everyone into thinking everything was fine and okay when we knew problems existed for a while! I wanted to speak up but we decided it wasn’t for anyone to know. I would never intentionally hurt a soul and everyone around me knows that!”

The rapper also claimed he didn’t want to announce the marriage was over because he was embarrassed and felt like a failure.

“Even though we were trying to overcome personal things between us, I was just simply scared and embarrassed to let everyone know we were failing and have now failed,” he added.

In My Own Words:

First I want to thank God for the trials of life, without them we can’t know purpose!

I would love to tell the truth as to why my relationship wasn’t successful, but today that is between me and Christina.  Its easy to say that it’s because of another woman or a new relationship but truthfully, IT’S NOT.

I take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for misleading everyone into thinking everything was fine and okay when we knew problems existed for awhile!  I wanted to speak up but we decided it wasn’t for anyone to know.  I would NEVER intentionally hurt a soul and everyone around me knows that!  There was so much going on in me and Christina’s personal world that I tried to deal with it as delicately as I could and tried to regain my footing.  Instead of being direct in order not to cause even more hurt or hurt someone’s feelings, I carried the weight in secret!

I am Human and people fall in and out of Love all the time… This is Life.  Nothing’s promised or perfect, neither am I.  I am not proud that I lost something we once had…LOVE!  I’ve always been a Loving Father, Hard Worker, Generous, Stern and Eager to prove myself.  My faults are I can be irresponsible and an *ss sometimes, but I HAVE NEVER and WILL NEVER be a malicious person or wish harm to anyone, especially those I love or the mother of my child.  I’m sorry for the embarrassment to everyone involved!  If there’s anyone to blame and you can’t fathom this happening, please blame me and me alone for not being upfront!  Even though we were trying to overcome personal things between us, I was just simply scared and embarrassed to let everyone know we WERE FAILING and HAVE NOW FAILED!

This is not to justify anything, it’s true emotion! It’s a real thing that involves real people!  I’ve cried about this for months, after interviews, after prayer and I’ve tried to take my own life at a point because of the failure that was looming.

But I was reminded by my MOTHER that I am not “Superman” and its okay to lose sometimes…

This too shall pass! And everything will be fine!

~ Terius Nash ~

Source: Showbiz Spy, Global Grind

” I really hope they can work their differences out. Good luck to the both of them. Your thoughts?”

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Dear Diary: Lil’ Wayne’s Letter From Jail To His Fans

Despite the fact that Lil’ Wayne is currently behind bars, he is still managing to stay in his fans’ minds and hearts. The New Orleans-born rapper just sent his third letter to his fans since his stay at Rikers began. In it, he thanks his fans for their letters and good wishes, then goes on to individually shout out various fans that that have sent him mail.

His comments to his fans just seem so heartfelt and sincere. It’s undoubtedly comforting for Wayne to know that even while he’s in prison, people on the outside (who probably have never actually laid eyes on him) still care.

CHECK OUT WHAT WAYNE WROTE TO HIS FANS!

I hope everyone’s summer has been going well doing whatever it is you like to do. On my end, I’m alive, breathing and blessed. You already know how I’m passing the time – reading and working out.  I know I say it every letter, but thank you from the bottom of my heart for the pictures, rocking free weezy tees, and continuous  letters. They mean the world. I promise to continue to update as much as I can and answer as many questions as I can from you guys.  Shout out to my YM family for making me proud last night. Love and appreciate life. God bless.

TAKE A LOOK AT WAYNE’S THANKS TO INDIVIDUAL FANS!

I would love to thank the following fans:

Marcus Bowden – I simply appreciate you. You are the definition of strength.

Ms. Lisa Marie Newton – I’m glad I stole you away! Your pix were beautiful and hilarious. Great job on the costume.

Kritstin Stoneberg – Your cards are always perfect.

Thais Santos – Thanx for the longtime support and you are very pretty if I may correct you.

Amy Jean Godley – I appreciate it baby. I won’t stop.

Ms. Nesha Teree Liburd – Thanx for the love and I will keep my swag.

Brittany L. King – I loved the outfit with the tie. And don’t worry I won’t forget you. Thank you.

Anna Headen – I thank you for your love!

Lucife – STAY IN SCHOOL! And keep writing.

Karla Moy aka hustleGRL – I heard you’ve been holding down Drizzy for me. Your time and effort is much appreciated and doesn’t go unrecognized. I love you babe.

Anjaé – You are a jewel. Your words were so well put. And I advise you not to give up nothing but your time and thought to the pursuit of success. Nothing else! You actually made me wanna hear your lyrics by the way you write. Keep it up. Don’t sacrifice anything but time… and you’re a cutie!

Dani Gruber – I absolutely love your personality but confidence is key. I loved your letter. And say hi to Ryker for me.

April Mendoza – Just 5 minutes huh? You’re cute and funny. Thanx for putting your friends on to me.

Eshall Baukman – Keep beautifying the world. Your smile is gorgeous.

Danielle Jones-Morales – Thanx for your “honest opinion”.

Sarina Panjwani – So happy you found your iPod. And you’re a terrific artist. Loved the drawing.

Johnquisha Jones – Thanx for the words mama and I applaud your work on the school project. And you’re right; I’m not dissing Plies! And R.I.P. Cody.

Jonathan Everett David Powell (JED) – I swear to you that I almost dropped a tear reading your letter. You are my power. I thank you form the bottom of my heart. I prayed for your grandpa and I love your decision to become a radiologist. JED you are amazing. Thank you!

Alina Quinlan – I am honored to know that my words can inspire you the way they have. I wish you nothing but the best. I thank you with love. You made me feel great.

Michelle Grommer – I thank you kindly.

Saskia Nele Hartwig – Your letter was intriguing. I hope I meet you someday.

Ariel Beechum – I know you’ll be a wonderful teacher someday. Thank you.

Annette Glennon – You are very welcome and I thank you as well.

Olivia Movafaghi – You are metaphysically beautiful. Thanx babe and I loved the rap. Keep up those 4.0’s and you’ll end up wherever you please.

Nana A. from Springfield, MS – You are one beautiful black woman! Thank you for your words.

Alice Martin – Thank you sweetheart.

Walia Broadie – You are a very beautiful woman, as to was your letter. Misunderstood is good.

Nina Jacobs – Thanx for the support babe and tell your brother I said “Love.

For more check out Global Grind.

Source: Global Grind

Dear Diary: The Misunderstood Man – Michael Jackson

Hello Readers,

I came across a blog a few days ago, and read a post that they wrote about Michael Jackson. It was interesting to read in detail, what their thoughts of him were. I thought I would share that post with you.  You can do so below after the photo jump.

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In recent days, ten to be exact, I’ve been enthralled in the world of Michael Jackson. You may have noticed the number of MJ posts since his passing on June 25, 2009. There was more enlightening information about the man that I was tempted to post but decided not to so I wouldn’t bombard the blog with MJ all day. However, I felt my first written post about Mr. Jackson wasn’t enough. I have learned more about the man behind the music since that day and became more inspired and amazed by him. I also felt guilty.

He was truly misunderstood and believe me, I know what that feels like–it’s annoying, it’s hurtful and it’s frustrating. And like so many Americans, I, too, misunderstood Michael Jackson. No, I didn’t think he was a child molester. However, I didn’t rule out the possibility either. I just didn’t want to believe it for there was no true evidence from the two cases and I just didn’t want to think that he did it and fall into the media’s sensationalism.

Nevertheless, I did wonder about his seemingly bizarre behavior and his endless love for children and child-like things. I did wonder about his skin color and the ever changing structure of his face. I did ponder over his career and how much love and respect he received during the Thriller and Bad era versus the Dangerous and Invincible era. I wasn’t that excited about the comeback tour. I guess, in a sense, I wasn’t paying that much attention to Michael Jackson. I didn’t know the man at all and like I said in another post, I was not a fanatic. I only appreciated the music and the performance. The rest was up to interpretation.

Sadly, I didn’t realize how brilliant, caring and interesting this man was, and still is in spirit, until after his transition. I read and listened to a speech he did at Oxford University in 2001, which I didn’t know about until after June 25th. It was truly a raw, honest and beautiful speech. It made me laugh and cry. It also made me realize how wrong I was about him. He didn’t do anything to those kids. He couldn’t possibly harm a child. He loves children too much to ever do that. He even said in an interview that he would slit his wrists before hurting a child in any way.

Even though I’ve never fault him for those charges, I still felt extremely guilty after that speech, almost to the point of feeling slightly sick to my stomach. To be excuse of such a heinous act and to have almost everyone look at you differently, to one degree or another, must have been the most painful feeling. To be rumored of not liking who you are over and over again due to a disease that couldn’t be controlled must have been frustrating. To be constantly questioned about it and to be constantly not believed had to have been a nightmare. To be put in a situation where you are trying to do the best by these children by providing them their childhood with unconditional love and support, financial and otherwise, to only be subjected to their parents’ greed must have been heart wrenching. To be labeled as “wacko,” a “freak” and other negative names must have hurt like hell. And to know that there is a possibility that all of this was happening due to the extreme success of a talented, intelligent Black man, who outsmarted the big honchos in the music industry, made him believe that it was a conspiracy against him and rightly so.

He was not perfect at all. He had flaws. He made mistakes. To his omission, he compensated the lack of childhood in his early years by building Neverland Ranch and having friendships with children. He outbid a friend, Paul McCartney for the publishing rights of Beatles songs and might have married Lisa Marie Presley for the wrong reasons. He was addicted to painkillers at one point in his life. He also had too many unnecessary cosmetic surgeries on his nose. He said things that would be deemed questionable. He did things that most would say is odd and eccentric. He was a human being in all its complexity.

I don’t want to make him appear to be a saint but I do believe wholeheartedly that his intentions were good in his music and in his personal life. He wanted to end the mistreatment of true artists in the music business, especially Black artists. He wanted to help heal the world through an initiative of rebuilding the parent/child relationship. He spoke out against racism, injustice, police brutality, greed and other social issues that America still haven’t dealt with, through song, speeches and interviews. As one of his bodyguards said, he was the most misunderstood person in the world.

Michael said in one interview that if a lie is told over and over again, you will begin to believe it. He also said that the truth will outlive a lie. I think with his recent transition, people are finally seeing the truth and appreciating the music, the dance and the man of Michael Jackson.

And I have a funny feeling that he would forgive us all for misunderstanding him while he was here on this Earth.

R.I.P. Michael.

Source: TJP

Dear Diary: My Thoughts on the Michael Jackson Memorial

Wow, what can I say about this day. Michael Jackson‘s memorial was amazing. I really liked the way Mariah Carey sang. It gave me the chills, seeing her sing her heart out to “I’ll Be There”. I was still in shock of the whole thing until I saw them bring out Michael’s casket. It was so heart breaking for me to see his brothers bring it out with their heads down. I could just imagine how it felt.

I loved it when, Brooke Shields talked about how her and Michael acted like little kids when they were alone. It showed so much character in her. I loved the way she said that to everyone else he was this and that, but to her he was just being a human being enjoying life and smiling his way to the top. I cried so much.

Queen Latifah‘s speech from Maya Angelou, and John Mayer‘s performance was amazing. Reverand Al Sharpton, told everyone how it is. I never really paid any attention to what he had to say. Today’s speech made me see him as a total different person, he was real and loved the way he told Michael’s kids, that he was not what everyone else made him out to be.

Usher, Jermaine Jackson and Shaheen Jafargholi‘s performances were a hair raising moment for me. Usher made me cry so much when he sang the song, “Gone Too Soon” when he went down to touch the casket. Jermaine, sang “Smile. OMG! was I crying for that. It was sad to see him have the strength to even finsh the whole song. I really thought the whole Jackson 5 would perform, but hey I don’t know if they all really had the strength.

My heart-breaking moment was hearing Paris speak about her dad. Rumors had it that his son was going to sing or speak, but I never expected to see his daughter talk about her dad in such a loving way. She really let everyone know that he was the best dad, and person in the world. He was someone who cared about everyone and people just thought the worst in him.

People tend to forget that everyone is human and that everyone makes mistakes, not saying that he is guilty of those past allegations that were made against him. I never believed that any of that was true, but even if they were, he was never given the chance to bounce back from it.

This last tour that he was going to do called, “This Is It” tour, was going to be one of the best of many tours he has ever had. I was hoping to get a chance to see him in concert if it were given the opportunity to see him here in concert in the United States. I think he looked amazing in the videos they had of his practice performance he made at the Staples Center the night before he passed away. I was really sad at the thought that I will never get the chance to see him perform ever again, whether it be in concert or on TV.

Michael Jackson, I just want you to know that you are forever missed and I will never forget the true legend and icon you were and always will be. Love you always.

R.I.P. Michael Jackson
1958-2009.

Dear Diary: Remy Ma’s Letter From Prison to her fans

Incarcerated rapper Remy Ma recently took the time to write a letter to her fans from prison.

Remy, a former member of the Terror Squad, was sentenced to eight years in prison over one year ago. The rapper was convicted of assualt, weapons possession and attempted coercion after an altercation that left Makeda Barnes Joseph shot.

Here is the letter, according to GlobalGrind.com:

“I always find myself thinking about what I was doing a year ago, two years ago, five years ago today. I never remember exactly where till I find myself imagining where I would be today. I rarely listen to the radio because it’s sort of depressing. Not being able to record is stressful not because I’m a rapper but because that was my way of venting and expressing myself. So I write a lot! So much that now I have a callous on my finger from holding a pen. I guess I got used to texting my rhymes!

I get a lot of fan mail and everyone asks me how I’m doing? I say fine, the way I see it I never imagined making it this far with my sanity. Not being able to go somewhere when you want, see your family when you want (on many occasions when you need to), can’t use the phone, take a shower, wear clothes, or even eat when you want – super aggravating. Whenever, which is almost everyday I get visits, a lot of kids ask for autographs. It’s something that I used to do almost everyday but now it actually feels weird, I really feel like an inmate. And as much as I hate to admit it, I really am an inmate. I mean, it kind of grows on you when certain people go out of there way to make you feel like that.

They have this program called YAP (Youth Assistance Program) they keep asking me to join. It’s a program that brings inner city kids to the prison to show them what it’s like to be incarcerated. I hear that every group asks about me but I’m a little hesitant to join. They think it will give the kids a reality check that this can happen to anyone. I however feel that it’ll be more of the kids wanting to see Remy Ma the rapper and because of that they won’t get that I’m actually in jail. So I’m still contemplating. If I figure out a way for them to actually get it, that this is really not a place you would ever want to be whether for 8 years, 8 months, or 8 minutes then I’ll do it.

Everyone in prison isn’t innocent but everyone in prison isn’t guilty. So whether you end up here on purpose or by accident, the pain you’re feeling is still the same.  And I can quote a lot “gangsters” by saying that “I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy…”

Forever Innocent,
Rem“

Special Props to HipHopDX for the info via email

Dear Diary: My thoughts on the Chris Brown and Rihanna Case

I came across an article I read on E! Online yesterday about Chris Brown appearing in court later that afternoon. Now let me just tell you there were a bunch of comments made on that issue. There were 3 people who commented that made me realize what everyone is doing to harm this case. I feel people need to really look at it in different perspectives. The media tend to forget that celebrities are human beings. They make mistakes and those mistakes are things that they have to live with on a daily basis, especially being in the spotlight 24/7. One of the people who commented made a very important point.

She stated as follows…

mika Mon, Apr 6, 2009, 7:56 AM

WHY IS IT OKAY FOR RHIANNA TO BE DRINKING AN PARTYING IN BARBADOS GOING OUT EVERYNIGHT AT THE CLUBS AN DINNERS BUT CHRIS BROWN CANT GO NO WHERE DOES HE HAVE TO HIDE UNDER A ROCK THE KIDS 19 U DONT THINK HE KNOWS WHAT HE DID WAS WRONG WHAT ABOUT RHIANNA SLAPPING HIM IN HIS FACE N HE TOLD HER TO CHILL OUT WHAT HE DID WAS WRONG BUT WHY WE AS WOMAN THINK WE CAN HIT A MAN BUT HE CANT HIT US BACK THE DOUBLE STANDARD IS RIDICUOUS IF U CAN SWING YOUR HAND THEN LOOK FOR A SWING IN RETURN MY HUSBAND NEVER HIT ME NOR I NEVER HIT HIM BECAUSE I HAVE NO RIGHT TO DO SO NIETHER DOES HIM GIVE THIS STORY A REST IT IS OVERRATED

Another person made this comment…

Disgusted Mon, Apr 6, 2009, 8:19 AM

Yeah, so the little white lady who reports these stories is infatuated with the whole ordeal. Chris Brown should not be punished for defending himself. Rihanna shouldn’t be drinking her **** life away everywhere. She seems to have some sort of problem and needs an intervention! I think he has suffered enough and has been de-famed enough. It’s time to move one people.

Another said this…

Tracie Mon, Apr 6, 2009, 10:08 AM

My prayers are with Chris and Rihanna. It will be so nice when this is behind them. They have both suffered greatly during these past months mostly because of the media. I wish them both the best. I look forward to seeing them back doing what they do best. Good luck today Chris. Rihanna stay strong.

This is my opionion on what they all said...

I agree with Mika and Disgusted….It’s so true, what you both are saying. I am a fan of the both of them, but I just feel like Rihanna has thrown Chris Brown under the bus lately. She has been seen out & about in LA, Hawaii, NYC, and now Barbados partying her ass of. Her driver has also been seen slamming into cars when they leave the clubs. Chris was recently seen at a basketball game, raising awareness for the “White Ribbon Campaign” which is dedicated to Anti-Violence against women. If they so-called say that Rihanna and Chris were seeking help together where was she supporting him for his good deeds. Oh yeah partying it up at clubs. I think it’s fucked up what she’s doing. He’s like a turtle hiding in his shell. And she’s the new party animal. Paris Hilton look-out Rihanna‘s coming out to party harder.

Now don’t get me wrong I am a fan of the both of them. I agree with Tracie when she states about seeing this all go away and them coming back and creating great music. I would love to see what happens next, but I feel that they should give him a chance and let him say his side of the story. We already heard what Rihanna‘s family have been saying to the media. I feel like it’s been too much already.

The reason I say Rihanna‘s family is because, I feel like Rihanna‘s dad needs to give the media a break and stop looking for something new to say every time he is questioned for details. He has already spoken to the media about yesterday’s hearing.

Here’s what he had to say….

Rihanna’s dad tells US Weekly, “So what happened? Somebody else did this to Rihanna then. I just would like to see justice go in the right direction.”

Fenty explains, “I don’t want his career to be damaged — it’s damaged already. I think he’s a talented guy, but everybody should have to pay. When you do the crime, you do the time. I don’t want to see him locked up for a long time — I just want him to acknowledge and get some help.”

Unsatisfied, Ronald continues, “Who did it — that’s the question now. If he’s not guilty, who did it? He should say ‘guilty’ and let the court be leaning into him and try himself to the mercy of the court, see if he gets a fine…”

“Now he’s going to go beyond that and it could go longer, it can be even worse. It can be worse for him in the long run.”

I know he feels for his daughter and it’s understandable, but this is Rihanna and Chris Brown’s issue. You don’t see Chris Brown‘s mom talking to the media every 5 minutes about how Chris or even she feels. People need to back-up and give them some space to breathe and re-think everything over. Put yourself in their shoes. Trust me it would not be pretty, to be put into a position where everything you do, whether it’s good or bad, can be twisted into something that is not. And believe it if you smack a guy in their face they will smack you back, that’s like messing with their ego and a matter of their respect as a man. No one should lose that respect and trust in a person, it’s really hard to bounce back from that. That kind of draws the beginning of a line as to where it says it’s okay to do it every time you argue or disagree on something. Well it’s not okay! You should always have that level of respect on each other.

Check out the photos below…

Chris Brown in court on Monday Afternoon.

Rihanna partying in Barbados.

Chris Brown playing Ball at Mary Washington University for the “White Ribbon Campaign” which is dedicated for Anti-Violence Against Women

Rihanna at Club Delux, L.A

Well last but not least. I want to wish them both well and we hope this issue can go away soon. Good luck and we love you both.

Kiss Kiss,
jnelj4u

Dear Diary: Open Letter to Chris Brown

I came across a blog today called a “Diary of a Black Male Feminist: New Black Masculinity.” The author wrote an article called Open Letter to Chris Brown. I must say that it was so inspiring that I felt I should share with you all. So here it is a s follows…

Dear Mr. Brown,

You are standing at a crossroad of your life. One that many men have come. One that I had been. You joined (probably a long time ago) the ranks of men who have abused women. I wish I could tell you that I wasn’t part of the group but I am. Like most men, the cornerstone of my pride was based on my sexuality and physical toughness. There were times in my life where I felt humiliated for not being violent or abusive. I felt like the only way to wipe out the humiliation was to be violent and abusive. My crossroad came when a person came into my life and shook me to the core. This person started the deconstruction of my male belief system and 20 years later am I continuing that work. I was stuck in this “man prison” because my definition of masculinity was limited. Once I alleviated both perceived and real peer pressure that motivated me to engage in physical and sexual aggression to affirm my masculinity I was free. I hope this letter gives you some of the same freedom.

I took great pride in being labeled a “ladies man”. I was more interested in conquering women for sexual use than in the sensuality of the sexual experience. I regarded sexual experiences as conquests and often achieved these through conning. Just because I didn’t use force or coercion doesn’t make my abuse any more or less significant or vile. My interest had been in sex objects for my use and not as sexual partners. What I learned and what I hope you learn is that your behavior was terrible but you are not terrible. The second is that abuse is never good. Whether it is insults, shoving your partner, undermining confidence, or making slurs. I don’t limit my definition of abuse as just physical. It is all abuse.

My crossroad came unexpectedly. During my college years, there was a woman that every guy was interested in but none seemed to good enough for her. Let’s call her Marie. Of course, she became the object of my desire. I could do what no other guy could. I never talked to her. Instead I talked to her friends, did things for them, was available to them. I knew they would get around to telling her what a “nice guy” I was. You see, at the time I had the equipment to be involved in an adult relationship but I did not have the maturity, probably just like you. Eventually, we talked and I gained her trust. So much so that she told me intimate secrets of her life. Slowly she told me more and more. I eventually gained so much of her trust that she told me that she wanted to be intimate with me but there was something she had to tell me first. On the cusp of what I felt like I “worked” so hard for, what could have been that bad? I played the game and was about to win. Well, Marie told me that at her previous university she was ganged raped. I never have had a lower moment. I came face to face with who I really was. Marie loved me for who she thought I was. It was definitely someone I could be. Was it someone I wanted to be? My answer was yes. At that moment, I knew I needed a new soul or at least some major work on the one I had. The range of emotions that she went through that I had ignored for such a long time made sense to me now. One moment she was like a scared child, the next she was confident. One moment she wanted me right next to her, the next she couldn’t get away from me fast enough. This wasn’t day to day. This was minute to minute. I realized I had come close to abusing her even worse than the guys that gang raped her. I was no better than them. I had been using my penis as a weapon. Inflicting damage without thought of any consequences on others. I was always told what I was doing was part of being a man. It was game. I was playa. But if this was a game, how come I didn’t feel like a winner? I started going to domestic violence groups and eventually became an operator on a domestic violence hotline. I showed new female students areas on campus that had blue lights where phones were located for emergencies? Why would anyone need protection from winners? I realized I wasn’t a playa, I was jerk (to say it lightly). I began to do Women Self Defense workshops. Marie was proud of what I was doing but I had to share with her my most intimate secret. I wasn’t who I presented to be. I detailed my sexual history. I told her the extent of my search for sexual power, the ways I conducted that quest, the purpose it served, and the effect on others. She hugged me and said “Thank you”. She asked me to do her a favor. She asked me “Can you teach boys not to abuse women?”. Another enlightening moment. I was doing everything backwards. I was trying to teach women how not to get abused instead of teaching young men not to abuse.

I’m reaching out to you to do the same. Here are some of my recommendations where you could start. Because like myself, I think you have some work to do if you are truly sincere about not doing this again. Don’t allow your guilt and shame to ward off confusion, tears, tenderness, sorrow, and love. When we allow ourselves these feelings, the women and children in our lives may be able to feel a commonality and closeness with us, rather than feeling driven by us. I had to be comfortable not being in control, being patient, listening, offering advice, being of service- if power and control are essential to who we are, these will always be alien. But if we want love and connectedness, rich relationships with women, children, other men and ourselves…you have to be open to these. I had to do was develop a self disgust for the very behavior that I thought defined me. I had to look at the damage I inflicted on the life of others. That took me dropping the excuses (i.e. it was her choice, its all part of the game). Friends and family may even try to excuse your behavior (i.e. she started it, you didn’t plan on being abusive, you didn’t really mean it). Don’t accept the excuses. Look at your behavior for what it is. Divorce yourself from the image of playboy/ ladies man. The longer you hold onto that image the further away you get from stopping your behavior. That means getting away from your songs you have been so used to producing. It means divorcing yourself from the artists that produce music that encourages the behavior. It means possibly losing endorsements, money, and friends but it is an essential part of your healing process. Keep checking yourself. Make sure you are always aware of thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that encourage your old behavior. Intervene in the patterns and continually fight old ways. Use your music as a sounding board for the survivors of violence against women. Use it to help with the healing process for friends and survivors and to raise society’s awareness of the extent of the problem of violence against women. Lastly, confront men in the absence of women. Confront the attitudes when you are not on camera. Let people know this is the new you and not someone trying to reduce their sentence or come back into good graces. There are people out there who are willing to help and support you. This is only the beginning. Be well.

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